Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a student in the USA. I was looking for a Muslim wife but could not find a potential one that can be with me now. I have to stay here another three years to complete my PhD degree. It is almost impossible for me to wait this long. I am already unable to focus on my studies, both Islamic and professional, because I am thinking about getting married. At this point I start thinking about having a temporary relation with an American student! I really need your advice in this matter. It is really difficult for me to make this kind of decision.
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear questioner, we would like to thank you for the great confidence you place in us, and we implore Allah Almighty to help us serve His cause and render our work for His Sake.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
Temporary marriage or marriage for convenience is not permissible in Islam. Marriage can only be contracted with the intention of forging a permanent union. Allah calls it a solemn contract, and like all contracts, Muslims are bound by them and are expected to keep them as a basic act of faith. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Of all terms of contract we enter into, there is nothing more worthy of strict observance like those of marriage!” Moreover, marriage in Islam is a noble institution with high noble purposes such as achieving tranquility and peace through a successful union, partnership and companionship, commitment in shouldering the responsibilities of life, and rearing and nurturing of children. It is for this reason that Islam insists that we look for compatibility in spiritual and moral values as the supreme criterion in selecting a marriage partner.
Based on the above considerations, we are not allowed to resort to marriage simply for the purpose of sexual gratification. So you are not allowed to embark on marriage while you have the intention of terminating the marriage once you have finished your studies.
The only option left for you, therefore, is to seriously consider marrying her if she is of a reliable and trustworthy character. Otherwise, seek other healthy ways of sublimation by taking your mind away from lustful thoughts and practicing the discipline of fasting. For the Prophet said, “Fasting helps to curb one’s desires!”
Finally, never fail to call upon the Lord to guide you to the right decision and strengthen you in your resolve to remain chaste, steadfast, and protected. Ameen.
Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.muslims.ca