with Friends who Drink
Question: Almost all the people
in my hall drink and sometimes I sit with them (maybe because they have
assured me that they won't force me to drink). Now, my question is: Am
I also doing a sin by sitting with them?
Answer: There is no doubt
that the Qur’an leaves no room for taking intoxicants. However, the question
of socializing with those who violate this injunction has not been discussed
in the Qur’an as such. From the overall picture of Islam, it seems prudent
to avoid such company. Yet, there may be situations when it might be against
the norms of ethics to cut one's self off from one's society. In an environment
where a vice has become pervasive, it is sometimes permissible to regard
an evil despicable only in one's heart while fulfilling one's responsibility
towards one's society. However, one thing which you should continue doing
is inviting other people, that is your friends, to consider your points
of view seriously. This invitation must be made with love, understanding
and wisdom and never out of hate.
Towards a Friend Who Drinks
Question: A friend of mine
never drank while in Pakistan, but is now drinking. I have quoted the Holy
Qur’an to him. What should be my attitude towards him?
Answer: Don’t talk to him
any further about drinking. Instead, on suitable occasions, talk to him
about God. Tell him what He is and what He means to us. If he is able to
understand that, he’ll ask you how he should stop drinking. But even here,
don’t pester him. Your attitude towards him should be the attitude of a
person who sees his friend moving towards his own destruction. Therefore,
your attitude towards him should be of love and concern. To make yourself
effective in this regard, you’ll have to maintain your ethical superiority
at all times in mutual dealings.